Overcoming the confidence gap with self-advocacy and self-promotion

A few weeks ago, I attended and spoke at the inaugural Women Thriving in Law CLEBC conference - it was so inspiring! So many amazingly talented and successful women shared their thoughts and experiences on how to thrive while creating a law practice that suits your goals. From learning how to integrate your professional and your personal life, thriving in the face of adversity, neutralizing bullies, to developing strategies for creating and managing your energy, the workshop was overflowing with wisdom, advice and support.


I was honoured to speak on how to overcome The Confidence Gap. Nothing builds confidence like taking action, especially when the action involves risk and failure. Risk keeps us learning, growing, and improving. So, when in doubt, act. We can be our own worst enemy when it comes to eroding our confidence. We think too much, and we think about the wrong things. “What if I fail?” “What if they don’t like me?” What if…” These negative thoughts, which sometimes masquerade as problem-solving, spin us on endless loops.

Don’t ruminate – rewire. You are the boss of your thoughts. You can rewire your brain for positivity and confidence by becoming a keen observer of the relationship between your thoughts, your emotions, and your behaviour. Take charge of your career by taking initiative, because if you don’t ask, the answer is already “no.”