THE RECOVERY PROCESS
The recovery process for a codependent person is simple to state, but takes time and effort to bear fruit. The essence of it is learning to take good care of oneself, and to let others take care of themselves. To do this, the codependent needs to find out how he or she is feeling and behaving, to learn what he or she wants and values, to become detached from involvement in the other peoples’ problems, to learn to love oneself, and to take responsibility for attending to one's own needs. Detachment doesn’t mean indifference, or avoiding responsibility. It simply means putting that energy to better use. It means learning who you are and what you want your life to be about and living that way.
Caring for a chemically dependent or dysfunctional person can be terribly painful, and can affect your life for years after that person is gone. Recovering from codependency is a process of acknowledging and then letting go of pain, and finding ways to build a happy life. Twelve Step programs, such as Al Anon and Codependence Anonymous (CODA) have proven useful in helping individuals get support and learn to build their lives. Counselling, workshops and support groups can help you to learn about enabling, detachment, defining and maintaining boundaries, recognizing and dealing with emotions and with cognitive distortions and to learn relationship skills such as resolving conflict, assertiveness, and clear communication. Talk to friends and family, seek professional help and call your local LAP.
If you, or someone you know, have any of these characteristics or experiences call the LAP at 685-2171 or toll free - 1-888-685-2171. All calls are strictly confidential.